How to be a Sex God
I Broke Out of Prison
I didn't break out of the prison created for me by my parents, my church and my conservative Catholic upbringing until I was early to mid-twenties.
As a young teen, my sex education was non-existent to awful.
Sex was something to be feared and avoided. "Boys only want one thing" and "Don't get pregnant" were the mantras. But as you weren't allowed to use contraception and if you did, a vengeful God would torture you for all eternity, this translated to "Don't have sex."
The concept that sex could be something you might enjoy just didn't exist.
Looking back, I can only wonder how I could have bought into that bullshit for so long.
Anyway, from my last few years of enjoying sex in all its shapes and forms, here is my advice to guys on how to rock your woman's world.
Foreplay Starts with the Kiss
Kissing, frenching, snogging, sucking face—the prime mover of the sex world. It can make or break the chances of things going further. Nothing is a bigger turnoff than kissing someone who is haphazard, sloppily drunk, or who is blind to body language.
Strike a balance with the tongue: No tongue at all feels like junior high, too much tongue feels like tenth grade. What’s the right amount? If you have to ask…. Oh, and please close your eyes.
Want to get your woman wet and ready? Start up top. Sucking and (lightly, for most) biting the neck and ear feels incredible, as long as you don’t linger too long. You want your lady to look like she’s been with a master lover, not an extra from The Vampire Diaries.
We put as much emphasis on the appetizer as we do on the main course. Let us luxuriate in physical attention all over our bodies, and we’ll lavish that attention back (that’s right, you gotta give it away to get it). So start exploring.
Be Horny and Assertive
Brutally hot. Some women complain about a guy who is horny all the time, but trust me when I tell you that the opposite is way worse. No one likes a meek lover. And eye contact during the act is always a good idea.
When a woman is aroused, she’s confident about the way she looks, and confidence is an attractive trait in a partner. When we’re secure enough to undress piece by teasing piece, the hot factor increases exponentially.
Loud, graphic sex talk can be fun, but impassioned whispers in your ear as he takes you really push women over the edge. Just make sure you don’t say something that ruins the mood, like, “You really look like your mom right now.”
Play with My Nipples
Women have tits, and we like you to play with them, suck on them and maybe even tease them with your teeth. Our nipples are also often very sensitive, as are the areolae.
The first thing you should do is run the palms of your hand over them gently.
You'll feel them spring to attention and I'll get that sudden warm glow that sometimes makes me think there's a direct connection between my nipples and my pussy. But now that my nipples are erect, what should you do with them?
Worship My Clit, Find My G-Spot
Yes, please. A very large number of women do not get vaginal orgasms, no matter how rocking their men are, nor how hard they work. So a man who enthusiastically and expertly manipulates the clitoris will achieve the best of results. And for the men out there who can’t find it: Google Maps.
And yes, I know that image is just of a flower that looks a bit like a pussy with a clit. I'm just trying to avoid a XXX rating.
And look, it's not that hard to find my clitoris. You know how to rub my wet pussy, don't you?
Just move your finger/s from my opening up towards the top of my slit and just before you get to the top, you'll find a hard little knob. That's it! And if you were in any doubt, my sharp intake of breath will confirm it.
My G-spot isn't as obvious. It's on my upper vaginal wall, about a third of the way in. It just feels like a rough patch of skin. Just insert you finger/s and rub it with a "come here" motion.
Be prepared for different reactions from different women. For some, it's a "bleh" but for others, it's an intense, squirting orgasm.
You've been warned!
Watching My Man Get Aroused
We know that most men can get hard sitting on their asses doing nothing, but knowing that I caused that response in him is one of the more exhilarating and sexy feelings that I can experience.
This works whether he's clothed or gloriously naked.
And talking about being naked, there’s something highly erotic about simply being unclothed and vulnerable. Especially when it's in a slightly risky situation.
This why outdoor sex is such a turn-on, for both guys and girls. Quite aside from the delicious feeling of sun and fresh air on your naked body, the possibility of being caught adds spice to the situation.
The very first time I had penetrative sex (cock inside pussy) was pretty awful.
I was racked with guilt (see I Broke Out of Prison at the start of this post) scared and still pretty dry. The boy didn't talk, just went at it like a jack hammer and came in a couple of minutes.
I've learned so much since then.
I love it when a great session of foreplay (which may have included an orgasm or two) is followed by a slow, deep penetration. It's an entirely personal sensation: a man is inside you, and you feel close to him. Nothing feels better than this. Ever.
When this happens (and yes, men, it should be your goal for both of you to get there), it truly is explosive for us. You truly lose yourself for a moment, and the heat and abandon is just right. As for the men’s side of the deal, we women love your fluid. Messy? Yes. Not the best flavor? Oftentimes, no (but you can fix that with the right diet and/or supplement). But for sheer animalistic lust, having a man shoot in or on you is pretty glorious. As long as you are committed or taking precautions, of course.
Using Sex Aids
I'm a big fan of sex aids, and you should be too. Especially in a long-term, committed relationship. Why?
Because the initial heat wears off. Always. And that's when aids shine.
If you've left it until that happens, it may be too late. Long term couples can be too reticent to suggest introducing dildos, restraints, vibrators and so on. But if they're already part of your kit, it's easy. Like "we haven't used the restraint for ages. Want to give it a go?"
And, of course, there are the aids to sexual pleasure represented by supplements, brought into the mainstream by Viagra, despite its dangers and side-effects. Here are 4 that I've found excellent:
Provestra™ has been scientifically formulated with a blend of the highest quality herbs, nutrients, and aphrodisiacs...All designed to help gently rekindle desire while improving lubrication and sexual response by increasing blood flow to the vaginal and clitoral regions.
Described as an "instant turn-on cream," Vigorelle™ is applied to your most intimate areas before or during lovemaking to dramatically increase sensation and intensify orgasms.
There are NO pills to take, NO manuals to read, NO awkward positions to learn. Just a sensuous, deliciously smooth cream to transform every touch into pure sensual pleasure.
Use them together for mind-blowing sex.
Use them together for mind-blowing sex.
And in Conclusion...
The fact is, I've got a lot more to talk about, but didn't want to turn this post into an erotic novel.
So I'll save the rest for future posts, where I'll discuss:
- Make Your Woman Feel Like a Sex Goddess
- Sex With and Without Talking
- The Joy of Sweat and a Hard, Fast Quickie
- Being on Top
- Doing It Doggie Style
- My Ass is an Erogenous Zone
- Oral Sex: Lick My Clit, Eat My Pussy
- Oral Sex: Sucking and Swallowing
- Where Does Masturbation Fit in?
- Being Restrained
- Cum All Over Me
- The Afterglow
- More than Two: Pros and Cons of Group Sex.